May Eighteenth
Today is our 3rd anniversary. I like anniversaries. They are as nice and happy as birthdays. You don't even have to do anything special... the day itself feels special.
Obviously for me this has a lot to do with my husband. I will try not to embarass him here but I do have to say that he is doing a great job. I often think back and wonder if marriage turned out to be what I hoped for - or, in better words, if what I experienced matches what other people had told me before I got married myself. I think the answer to both would be: no, not really.
I don't think anyone could've have given me a good impression of what "my" marriage would be like. I suppose that's true for everbody. Turns out, whatever they described, it was "theirs", it wasn't mine. Some general things might apply to everybody, but general things is not the stuff you are curious about before you get married.
Also, marriage did not turn out to be the way I imagined it, because - there was no way I could've really imagined. I am still amazed that I am married. It feels so natural, I never had to question it, it was never a real struggle. And my husband still thinks he made a good decision. That amazes me as well. I catch myself thinking how relieved I am that he's still around. Not that I expect him to leave but when I think of the things I can't stand about myself, I am glad he is willing to put up with it. Or maybe he doesn't notice. ;) Then I'm just plain lucky.
Maybe people think I've been married for too short a time to be able to say anything substantial. Or that the reason I'm "still" happy is that I just haven't run into the "real" problems yet. That might be true (although I doubt it obviously), but then I know that nobody really has a clue about our marriage besides us. I should probably remember that next time I think I have something to say about somebody else's relationship :).
I wish I had the ultimate "sentence" to say about how I feel about being married, - "the conclusion", if you want. I can't sum it up, it would somehow imply I know something or I played a crucial role in its outcome. And I didn't. I just feel extremely blessed. Still surprised it happened. Like watching something incredible unfold. Yet it still feels familiar and normal. Uh, am I making sense here...? Time to stop before I lose myself in corny metaphors ("like a rainbow" :).
You know what I mean.
1. What a lovely picture!
2. As an unmarried person who will probably be engaged soon (!), it's nice to hear someone talk about marriage in a positive light. I hear LOTS of things about marriage and wonder, "Will that be us someday?" But I think you're right--people's experiences with their own marriage will not be the same ones that I will encounter. I always hear how hard it is, how the first year is the worst, blah, blah, blah. I like your idea about it all happening "naturally" since that's how my relationship has been since the beginning.
3. Happy anniversary!
Liebe Egonine!
Alles, alles liebe zu deinem 3. Hochzeitstag wünscht dir deine Lieblingsnervensäge!
Con un cordial saludo
El Daniel