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I told myself I would not blog about this, but as you can see, I changed my mind. Well, I didn't, but I just have to say something - at the risk of being misunderstood and disliked (obviously that has never happened before ;). I understand the desire of gay couples to live together, get married etc. I understand their dilemma, I can see the pain of being homosexual in a heterosexual world. I can understand the desire, but the desire doesn't make B out of A. It doesn't make black white and white black.
I'm reading "Parents Magazine" (controversial, I know), the article is called "Zoe has two mommies": mommy and mama are raising her. Mommy says: "When we started thinking about having a family... we met with a fertility specialist to discuss how to proceed. Obviously we faced issues that heterosexual couples don't encounter." Uhm... yeah. You can't blame this on narrowminded right-wing fundamenalists. These "issues" are not a consequence of unjust laws. I'm pretty sure married homosexual couples in Netherlands have those same issues even though they do not face legal obstacles like here. To me the current discussion has created the biggest pink (or is it purple?) elephant in the room. Everyone is elated that finally finally gay couples will be legally recognized as what they've always been: two people who love each other and want to have a family, just like the heterosexual ones. It's ok they want that but they can't. How big of a hint do people need that there's something wrong with this picture? And don't blame it on the religious right, as much as they are often bigoted and merciless. Two healthy women or two healthy men cannot produce offspring without some sort of artificial intervention or adoption. They are not the same as heterosexual couples. It's nature. All morality aside.
We can discuss whether homosexual couples should marry or not and what that would look like legally. We can discuss whether it should be a government issue or not. We can discuss the moral side. We can discuss the practical side. We can discuss it all and wonder what it will mean for the future, but please, let's be honest and call things by their name. It seems it is so PC to support gay marriage that the mere pressure of having to appear "open-minded" and having to keep up with current trends has immobilized people's ability to think when it comes to anything gay-related. If you want to be understanding, you have to support the gay lifestyle, and if you don't, you are not understanding. To say the least. You are probably a heartless bigot.
It's the emperor's new clothes: everyone is clapping in delight and no one dares to say what is more than obvious. It bugs me to no end.
Posted at 09:24 PM on February 20, 2004
I agree, Dinka.
I did manage to catch an openly gay man on the news, who happens to be a radio talk show host (can't remember his name), speak out against what's going on in San Francisco. I enjoyed his perspective very much, as he was saying that history has shown that marriage, between a man and a woman, has been the one institution that allows society to thrive and to remain stable. If it ain't broke, don't "fix" it, basically. He went on to discuss several issues, but all too lengthy to get into in one comment box. Sure, there are moral reasons to oppose it, but there are several other reasons (societal for one), for the secular community at large to oppose it as well. Aah! But we are obviously all close-minded anyway...sigh. ;o)
and i was thinking, nobody was going to comment on such a controversial issue. thanks for doing it!
about marriage keeping society stable.. i'm not sure if divorce actually did enough damage, so that gay marriages wouldn't make much more of a difference. i just strongly dislike the notion that a gay couple is "just the same". but i made my point already. ;)
Clap, clap, clap!!!!
That's me clapping at your comments, not clapping in delight.
Dinka, you get a heartfelt "ditto!"
hehe... you're funny, susan! nice to see you here!
testify, sistuh.
We are in a sad state indeed when even Parent's Magazine gets into the act.
Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us!
Dinka,
You're right, this goes way beyond religion. The proliferation of the human race depends on heterosexual relations(at the very least), and this will never change. I have alot of friends who are gay, and they can do whatever they want. I wont deny their right to be happy,I dont agree with it, and it's against my religious beliefs, but its their choice, their life, and if they want to go down that road, thats their business. But this is different, and I dont think its right.....Churches aren't going to be beholden to that law.If I understand it correctly, it only means that the government will recognize it.I dont think we'll ever see the day the Holy Catholic Church recognizes gay marriage.
But if we okay gay marriage,where does it end?It may sound alarmist, but if same-sex marriage becomes commonplace, the bigamists surely wont be far behind. They already do what they want, why wouldnt they come out of the closet -so-to-speak? Moreover, who is to say the pedophiles wont try to get their say? NAMBLA already says that their relations with young boys is misunderstood and that they are truly in love, who is to say they wont try to make a move?
Besides all that,we have enough problems with some heterosexual couples making light of marriage, we dont need any more help!
P.S. Veronika is absolutely a sweetie pie!